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I've been completely remiss with this blog. I shan't give excuses because, well, what good would that do? Instead, some quality reading material that I've found—or that has found me—recently.

• Bishounen Works is the fantastic web site of P.L. Nunn, renowned yaoi fan fiction author and artist. I've known about her site for, god, ages now and it has long since been a bookmark in my collection 'o naughty sex sites. She's got a ton of fantastic artwork, if you're into that sort of thing (I am).
  
  However, recently Eileen discovered several specific pieces of fiction that have quite literally rocked our world. They are absolutely wonderfully horrific tales of torture and abuse and are certainly not for the faint of heart, but their extreme violence and unabashed eroticism make them true must-reads for anyone who finds the fantasy of non-consensual BDSM (rape, kidnapping, captivity, torture, etc.) arousing.
  
  I don't often feel the need to place such disclaimers around links, but these are very extreme stories. They are also purely fantasy, an important point to keep in mind.
  
  Here's a brief list of some of my favorites so far.
  
  
  
  
  • Bloodraven - a fantasy world where invading Ogres capture and enslave humans finds one such man taken hostage for the sexual amusement of his new Ogre master.
  
  
  • Walking with the Dead - Okay, I haven't actually read it yet but Eileen says it's filled with all sorts of sexy hotness. :)
  
  
  
  
  Reading this kind of intense stuff is sometimes frighteningly sexy. The thought of having my life ripped away from me and being thrust into non-consensual slavery wherein I am abused day and night to the point of exhaustion and near-death almost daily at once fills me with several kinds of lust. I am pretty sure for obvious reasons that the eroticization of such a thing would quickly vanish in the face of being confronted with such a reality, but other emotions would not. The bloodlust, fighting instinct, would be stroång, and it's more than often that feeling, too, that I crave when I want to play with pain really hard….


• Dominatrix Next Door - This extremely intelligent pro-domme's blog is clearly in its early stages, but is already home to some wonderfully insightful posts about sex work, and what that's actually like. In case you missed that, this is a BDSM professional's blog who calls her profession sex work, and that alone should tell you just how observant this young lass is. I've been reading some of her writings for quite a while now and I'm always interested, and sometimes humbled, after reading her perspective on things.


• Behind Kink's Free Documentaries - Of course, I'd be remiss not to mention Kink.com's wonderful new announcement that they have made access to all of the Behind Kink documentary videos absolutely free. This comes right on the heels of Kink.com's recent mention in the New York Times and is exactly the right thing for them to do, and it is the first move towards making the pornography industry something that will really benefit from, instead of being hampered by, the advance of technology and media sharing. If you have yet to watch a few of these, go check them out. It's not always what you think.

Huh, how very much like me. So apparently I got THUMKED by Tom Allen over at The Edge of Vanilla quite a while ago and I failed to really notice. Not that I didn't read the post or anything, but I didn't actually get that the thing was a meme, because I'm silly and care little for memes of that sort.

However, I also completely missed this week's Wednesday Wanderings, so I figure now's the perfect opportunity to make up for it by participating in this conveniently appropriate little meme thing.

So in accordance with the rules:

The rules (if you choose to play by them) are simple:

1. If, and only if, you get tagged, write a post with links to 5 blogs that make you think,


2. Link to this post so that people can easily find the exact origin of the meme,


3. Optional: Proudly display the ‘Thinking Blogger Award’ with a link to the post that you wrote (here is an alternative silver version if gold doesn’t fit your blog).

So, who makes me think? Lots of people, but narrow that down to people with lots of content on their blogs and it gets very difficult to name folks that haven't already been named.

1. Without a doubt, Richard's blog at Down on my Knees is incredibly thought-provoking and writes about so many topics (in so many places) that I get lost trying to keep up. What I like most of all is that he shares even the briefest insights, and he makes his experiences that much more valuable for doing so.


2. Of course, Alexandra, aka. the Sensual Sadist is often the other side of the coin to Richard's musings, and I would be remiss not to mention her blog here as well. It's so nice to see writing from dominants and being able to cross-reference their writings with the other point of view. Few couples do this so openly as these two do.


3. I think I need a little Bitchy to temper my thoughts, too, so that's why I've really been enjoying Bitchy Jones's Diary more and more lately. I'm not always such a realist, even though I want to be, but she seems to be dead-on-balls consistent when it comes to things like that.


4. A lot of the time things that people do make me think just as much, if not more so, about things than the stuff they say, which is why I've very much enjoyed reading Mistress 160's blog recently. I love the way she writes about the play she does with her submissive husband, Sol, and just her creativity alone is enough to spark lovely and devilish thoughts in my mind.


5. Who else? Well, I'll bend the rules a little and list Eileen, even though her blog isn't chock full of entries or anything yet. She's the one that makes me think more than anyone else, and the one with whom so much of my experience has been growing with. That's the stuff real insights are made of.

I've been a bad boy. It's nearly Thursday and I've yet to get to my Wednesday Wanderings posting this week. I don't think I really have the readership who cares, but I've not been very good about posting lately and I certainly want to write about the events of the weekend and this past week. They have been amazingly wonderful, and the explorations into D/s that Eileen and I are doing right now is pushing us both in new—and exciting—directions.

However, once again, tonight I haven't the energy to draw it all together and so instead I'll make note of some of the recent goings-on elsewhere that I've found to be interesting. Rather than try to continually find great new stuff (because, damn, that's really hard—there isn't really that much great stuff out there, really, and even if there is it's hard to find), I'll do the ol' some old and some new link list.

So without further ado, this week's Wanderings:

• Bitchy Jones's Diary: Fuck Me, and Fuck Me Again - Bitchy Jones has, in traditionally beautiful Bitchy style, posted about her frustrations with the ideas of penile-centric sex and what it means in the realm of Femitydomity™ and the kink world as a whole. I loved these posts because I can relate to large parts of them, and I can see how I completely don't relate to other parts of them even though I can agree with her points. As usual, that is what the topic of BDSM (or kink, if I must, Bitchy ;) will do to folks. Everyone's got their own point of view because it's such an intensely personal topic. I love that about this subject matter. Anyway, long story short(er), you should go check out these posts.


• MWK's Weekly Wankcast - In the vein of new stuff, I followed some links on timidboy's site that led me to Mistress Wycked Kitten's "Weekly Wankcast," a podcast of teases and all sorts of other such wonderful things of that nature. I'll admit I have yet to listen to a single one from start to finish, but the excerpts I've been picking up sound very hot. As an information junkie and technologist, it's exciting to see people take advantage of new media in this way. Props to Mistress Wycked Kitten for being one of the first ones on the map in this space, and I certainly hope more will join her soon. Hell, I've got a ton of ideas myself....

In other news, it appears that a majority of bloggers (save Bitchy, of course) haven't been that active this past week, myself included. Richard and Alexandra are finally together again, and I wish them the best of times and a lot of fun while they spend their time together. Tom Allen's been spending a good deal of time responding to comments on his recent entries and as I'm somewhat more familiar with Tom's story from ages ago, I'm remaining a little quieter than most. Tom, you're becoming quite the little superstar. :)

For me, the past few days has been a whirlwind of activity in the non-kinky areas of my life. Suffice it to say that I'm voluntarily unemployed (or will be very soon) and am starting to freak out a little bit about it. I'm in that situation where I have no clue what my life will look like one week down the line, and this is both a freeing and somewhat frightening experience.

Eileen and I have enjoyed way, way more play than we normally do, as well, so there's a lot to write about. Almost too much, in fact, because I've been mulling the experiences over for days now and am no where nearer to writing about them. In some ways, I'm not sure I really want to quite yet, because they were awesome and personal and I don't have much of a basis for understanding them beyond the experience itself. I'd love to play that way some more in the future, and keep exploring these areas. And I know, I'm being way vague, which is totally unfair to readers. But hey, I may be a subbie but it's still my blog—and don't worry, you'll hear allll about it soon enough. :)

Time again for another Wednesday Wandering list o' linkage. This time, I wanted to find some quality submissive's content. Maybe it's just me, or maybe it's just the law of statistics, but there seems to be relatively fewer actually good quality submissive men's writings than there are dominant women's writings. Anyway, while not entirely sub-male-produced, here's my list for this week:

• Confessions of a Timid Boy - Timid Boy's blog is his self-proclaimed "journey into subspace". Surprisingly, since most of these sorts of things are pretty templatized (guilty as charged), Timid Boy's site itself is very nicely designed. The very sexy photo at the top earns a lot of points here, as well. He writes a lot about his personal experiences with his orgasm denial at the hands of his Mistress, which, if you're interested in that sort of thing from a sub male's point of view, is a good read.


• Human For Sale - While not really content, I thought this would be interesting to point people to. Also, just think of the naughty conversations that it could spawn. This is a site that tries to guestimate your monetary value based on your qualities and experiences, such as educational level, lifestyle habits, physical characteristics and so on and so forth. Even better, it explains most of the decisions it makes. I'm apparently worth about $1,900,000, which is just above average for men. My girlfriend is worth more than a million dollars more than I am, and was the second-highest valued female on the day we took the test together. Figures, doesn't it? ;)

So that's it. I know there's not much this time, but things have been a little crazy for me. I just gave my boss(es) my notice of resignation, and I don't have another job lined up so this'll be interesting. I've spent the week mostly at a hotel and the major comfort I am finding while away from home is the garter my girlfriend packed in my bag for me. I love the feeling of the fabric encircling my thigh, even while it makes me miss home and her touch even more.

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I don't really think this will happen any time soon, but as is the case with most of my writing, it tends to come out in spurts. (Hmm, freudian spill, there?) ;) Anyway, to help prevent this from dying down, and because it's just plain fun, I'm instituting a "Wednesday Wanderings" content category for my blog, which will basically be a short list of links about some topic with a short blurb about what I think about what I've found there.

Several good things can come of this. First, it will keep me trying to find good stuff out there. I don't want to link to uninteresting or redundant things. Second, it will keep me reading about things I have not read about before. This is more than just fun for the sake of variety--although that's a major benefit right there--but it's also an important ingrediant for learning. Third, it'll provide a nice way for me to say thank you to others who have put the time and energy into making something worth consuming. (Damn freudian slips.)

That said, a few caveats are in order. There's a ton of reading material out there, and there are only 24 hours in the day. Most of these hours I have to spend doing things other than reading about BDSM, which is indeed unfortunate but true. As a result, I may not actually read every last word of every last page I link to. It just isn't feasible. Second, I'm not actually endorsing anything I link to, I'm just linking to it because for one reason or another, I found it cool.

(As a side note, Goddess Alexandra posted a very touching entry regarding the expectation or idea that D/s is a full-time thing. Or rather, that it doesn't have to be. It's another great example of trying the shoe on for size and only buying it if it fits. I think you should read it.)

Finally, the obvious question: "Don't you link to tons of stuff in normal posts anyway?" Yes, it's true that I do this all the time anyway, but I think having some kind of publication schedule will help me keep this site active as well as maintain my interest in all these other areas. Besides, sometimes a list format is just easier to speed-read through than a blog post.

So without further ado, the first Wednesday Wandering list is below:

• Making Him Your Dream Man: Male Chastity FAQ - I'm sure it's no surprise that male orgasm denial is on the first Wednesday Wandering list. This 8-step guide to male chastity is illustrated with cartoons in the style of Jan Thor's Chastity Belt Page and I found them to be a lot of fun.
  
  The steps themselves are short, simple explanations and written with a wonderful conversational tone. There's nothing in-depth here, but it's a fun read and is a great, gentle introduction to male chastity for women (aka, The Vanila Domme) who may not understand why they might be interested.


• Maria's Diary - The author of this site (Maria, if you haven't guessed), bills it as the "thoughts and experiences of a dominant wife," and that's a great synopsis. What sort of experiences does this dominant wife have, however? Well, lots! And not just with her husband.
  
  Maria cuckolds her husband Martin, and they both get off on it quite a bit. What I loved about the few diary entries I've read here is that she doesn't focus on just one aspect of her play or relationship, but actually tells the full story of each experience from background to actual experience all the way through reflection. She even writes about the conversations she has with husband about the cuckoldry itself. Maria writes a lot, she writes expressively, and there are even pictures! I've already bookmarked her diary and printed out the first article so I can read it on the train today.
  
  Unfortuantely she has decided not to write more in her diary, and from what I gathered it seemed to be the result of too much less-than-positive attention. Nevertheless, the archives are fantastic and I encourage you to read them if cuckoldry and female dominance have any interest to you at all.


• Lady Julia's Entranced Realm - One of my favorite Femdom bloggers, Julia's site is full of wonderful accounts of her experiences on her blog and throughout the rest of her site that are told in one of the kindest, most personable ways I've seen. She is engaging, intelligent and opinionated, but best of all open to debate and discussion, so if you read her posts don't hesitate to comment on them!
  
  Additionally, and this is why she's making my list today, she has a wealth of information on the topic of erotic hypnosis (her hypnosis articles are not to be missed) which has just recently become a new fascination for me. I've already found some eye-opening stuff by perusing these articles and you can rest assured I'll certainly be reading the remainder of them.

Okay, so that's my Wednesday Wandering list for the first week of March 2007. Not many, but as we all damn well know, the point is quality, not quantity, right? ;)

Happy clicking. And remember: not all who wander are lost!