tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38888044.post1211024462753017803..comments2023-10-22T04:04:26.768-04:00Comments on REDIRECTED TO MAYBEMAIMED.COM: Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed: When I'm not feeling submissiveUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38888044.post-70936471423027800982007-10-26T18:44:00.000-04:002007-10-26T18:44:00.000-04:00Hey Susan,Thanks for stopping by and your words of...Hey Susan,<BR/><BR/>Thanks for stopping by and your words of solidarity.<BR/><BR/>If you want to keep updated with this blog, point your browser over to <A HREF="//maybemaimed.com/" REL="nofollow">MaymeMaimed.com</A> instead, as that's where I'm keeping things these days.<BR/><BR/>Thanks again,<BR/>-maymaymaymayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17949451039611179843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38888044.post-55262437921770307702007-10-26T17:08:00.000-04:002007-10-26T17:08:00.000-04:00Hi May,I'm just now finding your blog (or at least...Hi May,<BR/><BR/>I'm just now finding your blog (or at least getting around to reading some of it - that's what a late Friday afternoon at work will do for a girl), and I'm really enjoying it. I'm not sure if you'll see this comment a month after the fact, but I did want to thank you for writing it, and the blog in general. But specifically this post. When I moved in with Jason, I think the biggest adjustment for me was my expectations (of a D/s home life) versus the reality. And the expectations were most off not when it came to US, but when it came to me. It was easy to find a submissive headspace when I visited his apartment once or twice a week. (Even more so with my dominant before him, who I maybe saw twice a year.) But day to day, I found that I couldn't always find that space when he wanted it. Or more importantly, when I wanted it. We would say things like, "we haven't played in a while," but with little passion, just a vague realization. <BR/><BR/>When people ask me what surprised me most about my life as a submissive or my current lifestyle in general, I always say, "I say 'no' a lot more than I ever would have expected."<BR/><BR/>- Sue (from TES)Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02239086941985919886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38888044.post-64474855357812926952007-09-28T13:21:00.000-04:002007-09-28T13:21:00.000-04:00I cycle a lot.I used to, but haven't done much in ...<I>I cycle a lot.</I><BR/><BR/>I used to, but haven't done much in a few years. ButI just got my bike tuned up, 'cos I've been into the fitness thing lately.<BR/><BR/>What's that? <BR/>Oh. You meant...<BR/><BR/>I, uh, cycle a lot, too, depending on how other things are going in my life. I think it's pretty normal. Sometimes I just have to put all sex, not just the kinky stuff, out of my mind for a while in order to become more focused on things. <BR/><BR/>Other times Mrs. Edge and I just aren't connecting for some reason - usually family stuff. For the last couple of weeks we're not even going to bed at the same time, which tends to screw with the bonds of intimacy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38888044.post-25248211620131970942007-09-28T06:32:00.000-04:002007-09-28T06:32:00.000-04:00I just gotta say, man, is this incredibly relevant...I just gotta say, man, is this incredibly relevant to my current situation (which I will blog about, er, "soon"). One more bit of reassurance coming from one more direction. More and more, I feel like I can make this work.<BR/><BR/>Oh, BTW, I take a perverse joy in being vague and confusing. I try to scale it back, but sometimes it's just too tempting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38888044.post-52448861314072284362007-09-26T20:52:00.000-04:002007-09-26T20:52:00.000-04:00"Submissive emotional space isn’t always available..."<EM>Submissive emotional space isn’t always available. And it can be a drain to be attached to a top who feels it should be there all the time no matter what.</EM>"<BR/><BR/>I'm actually in the enviable situation of living with a top who is exceptionally understanding and loving and patient. It's she whom I feel bad for, having to live with me.maymayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17949451039611179843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38888044.post-15805886222989762852007-09-26T18:20:00.000-04:002007-09-26T18:20:00.000-04:00Bless you for writing that. Submissive emotional s...Bless you for writing that. <BR/><BR/>Submissive emotional space isn’t always available. And it can be a drain to be attached to a top who feels it should be there all the time no matter what. I love wanting to drop to my knees. But damn if I can help it if other parts of life – work – or, say, biochemistry, don’t let me. I think I’m missing as much as the top. <BR/><BR/>Sometimes you just have to get through the day, do the needful things. Having to do what is necessary to pay the mortgage or keep the electricity turned on isn’t sexy. But the consequences of inaction aren’t the least sexy. Or submissive.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38888044.post-25757982593162700852007-09-26T18:09:00.000-04:002007-09-26T18:09:00.000-04:00"(Completely OT) Please don't actually hyperextend..."(Completely OT) Please don't actually hyperextend your knees, or whoever's trying to make you kneel can just wait until you pass out."<BR/><BR/>Indeed, as we learned in marching band..."don't lock your knees!"<BR/><BR/>May -- well, hang in there anyway, it'll come back. With a vengance, I'm sure :DEthylBenzenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08809013705471938666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38888044.post-21775412741766930162007-09-26T10:25:00.000-04:002007-09-26T10:25:00.000-04:00"(Completely OT) Please don't actually hyperextend..."<EM>(Completely OT) Please don't actually hyperextend your knees, or whoever's trying to make you kneel can just wait until you pass out.</EM>"<BR/><BR/>That was an awesome comment. :)maymayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17949451039611179843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38888044.post-56093322664552473792007-09-26T08:31:00.000-04:002007-09-26T08:31:00.000-04:00(Completely OT) Please don't actually hyperextend...(Completely OT) Please don't actually hyperextend your knees, or whoever's trying to make you kneel can just wait until you pass out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38888044.post-68229034908653770152007-09-26T01:34:00.000-04:002007-09-26T01:34:00.000-04:00I second ethylbenzene's notion that kink/relations...I second ethylbenzene's notion that kink/relationships cycle.<BR/><BR/>I know I sometimes have times where I don't feel like domming much. I'll still fantasise about domsex, but I have little inclination to carry it out.<BR/><BR/>I think dominance and submission are really quite draining, and probably many people wax and wane a bit.<BR/><BR/>Since you mention you've had an unproductive day at work, maybe you're just going through a general flat period?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38888044.post-44363275895207007492007-09-25T22:55:00.000-04:002007-09-25T22:55:00.000-04:00Real life isn't really that busy, actually. I didn...Real life isn't really that busy, actually. I didn't do squat at work today because I just couldn't bring myself to, for instance, and I bet no one noticed at all.<BR/><BR/>But thanks for the kind words anyways. Those are always very nice.maymayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17949451039611179843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38888044.post-86958606221945137612007-09-25T18:34:00.000-04:002007-09-25T18:34:00.000-04:00Ok, so my first thought was that Juliet was right ...Ok, so my first thought was that Juliet was right a couple posts down when she commented that a lot of cyclists are kinky, which rapidly veered into thinking about cycling men and their calf muscles.<BR/><BR/>Then, I read the rest of the post.<BR/><BR/>Goodness me, yes. I don't know how long you and Eileen have been together, but of COURSE relationships cycle. Kink IME cycles too. For me it sometimes has to do with hormones -- around my period I get all super-sensitive to everything, including smells, pain, and other stimulus. So sometimes what I want or need at those times is different than other times. But sometimes it's just about what else is going in "IRL." <BR/><BR/>Your comment about time really struck home with me, because my libido has been kind of down this past week (it's so unusual for me that being down for a WEEK is like a "sound the alarms" kind of situation, 'cause I'm jus' a horndog...), and yeah. I just feel like my very limited time with the boyfriend could be so much better spent talking (jeez, I mean, when was the last time I saw him, yesterday? What's he been up to?!), just more being together, rather than getting it on. Which would not only cut into that time, but will also cut into my limited sleeping time. So yeah. Just not feeling it this week.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, hang in there, I'm sure you'll pull out of that funk. Hopefully RL will slow down a bit and you can get your mind all sexy once more.EthylBenzenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08809013705471938666noreply@blogger.com